Stop for a second and think of your childhood. Were your parents strict with you when you were a child? Did they order you to do your homework on time or to clean your room? Many people have grown up in families with strict mothers whose constant nagging was difficult to deal with. But interestingly, according to one expert, mothers who are strict tend to have more successful children. So if you felt like your mother made your life a living hell, you will end up thanking her for the way she treated you back then.
Erica Rascon, a professor from the University of Essex has done a study which showed that strict mothers tend to have more successful children, and successful people had highly demanding mothers. The research analyzed surveys of over 15 000 children aged 13-14 between 2004 and 2010 and its major hypothesis included the impact of the parents, primarily the mother’s, expectations. According to Rascon:
“The measure of the expectations in this study reflects a combination of aspirations and beliefs about the likelihood of access to higher education declared by the majority of parents, in most cases the mother.”
Children with mothers who had high expectations are more confident and secure. This study showed that daughters of nagging and persistent mothers have 4 percent lower chances of getting pregnant at an early age. Those with nagging mothers also had higher chance of finishing college and getting a good job. As unrealistic as it seems, strict and demanding mothers do have more successful children.
“In many cases, we have success doing what we believe to be most convenient for us, even against our parents. But no matter how much we try to avoid our parents, any recommendations form influence, albeit subtly in the decisions we make, but we believe that they are extremely personal”, says Rascon.
Most children consider demanding mothers to be their enemy while growing up, but it turns out that putting up with it will undoubtedly help you later in life. While she may make your life a living hell sometimes, you will appreciate and recognize all the efforts she gave you to raise you properly. You will thank her later and try using the same approach for your children.