Letting Go Of Someone Is Hard And Painful (But Sometimes It’s The Best Thing You Can Do)

“Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go.” – Hermann Hesse

Whether you want to admit it or not, letting go of a person you truly care for can be extremely difficult! However, sometimes it is the best thing you can do, if you are to preserve your peace and happiness.

Letting go a loving person is not only difficult, but time-consuming as well. It does take plenty of time… and effort.  After all, you cannot let go of someone overnight. This occurs after you have been disappointed and hurt many times.  It occurs after you have been betrayed again and again. It occurs after your heart has been broken so many times! It occurs after you have given all you have to a person who didn’t deserve it at all.

Those who have hearts of gold never give up. They never lose hope that things will get better, eventually.  They turn a blind eye to any red flag along the way.  They spend their time and energy on people who don’t deserve a second chance. People who don’t even deserve to be forgiven.

But, you see, all of these experiences serve a good lesson.  They get you where you are supposed to be.  They basically shape you into the person you were meant to be all along.

One day you will wake up and realize that all the pain and negative things you experienced wasn’t in vain.  You realize that all the time and energy you invested in your relationship wasn’t for nothing.  Now, you are stronger, wiser, and happier because of it!

Now you become aware of your mistake. You know what type of person you need to avoid. Now you know what kind of people you should make room in your heart for. Now you know what makes you happy and who deserves to be a part of your life!

Tips on how to let go of someone easier:

  • Cut contact (Remove phone numbers, contact information, pictures, and anything else connected with them)
  • Be with what you are feeling (face the pain instead of running away from it)
  • Stop fantasizing (Maintain clarity and give yourself a regular reality check)
  • Practice forgiveness
  • Understand the grieving process
  • Reach out for support
  • Take all the time you need
  • Increase self-care
  • Go out and live your best life!