Most people tend to keep the inner world for themselves, and no matter how empathetic you may be, you can never know how they are really feeling.
Emotions are a powerful part of everyday life, and the pain people can experience is oftentimes hidden. People who don’t take the time to reflect on their emotions, on what is making them feel the way they are feeling, will never be able to learn how to control them. Sometimes people don’t even realize they are the victims of emotional abuse, and in such cases, it tends to go just like that… unnoticed. Therefore, it is of utmost importance to take the time and try to be as objective as possible whenever you notice that you are feeling emotionally hurt.
Unfortunately, many people don’t understand that emotional abuse can be as serious as physical one, and sometimes even worse.
If you aren’t sure whether you are the victim of such abuse, here are some of the signs:
isolating you from family and friends, trying to control your life, name-calling, invading your privacy, insults, and ridicule, making you feel guilty and punishing you for not doing what they want, attempting to make you question your own sanity (also known as gaslighting) and making threats.
Emotional abuse can indeed be a soul-crushing experience, and the victim is often confused to the extent of not being able to see who is at fault. As a result, they will often blame themselves, although it is never their fault!
According to some theories, emotional abuse may have long-term effects like chronic fatigue syndrome and fibromyalgia.
What are the short and long-term effects of severe emotional abuse?
Short term effects include:
- a racing heartbeat
- ache or pain
- muscle tension
- constantly feeling moody
- difficulty in concentration
Long term effects include:
- chronic pain
- low self-esteem
- social withdrawal
- post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in some cases
In case you are a victim of emotional abuse, the first thing you should do is try to discuss things with those involved. If nothing works out, distance yourself from the toxic environments which are bringing pain and harm to your emotional/mental health,
Trying things like journaling, taking up a hobby, talking to a trusted counselor, minding your diet, exercising, reaching out to others for support, and reading inspiring quotes/ books is also a good idea. All of these things can help you work through the pain and move beyond it!
Most importantly, remember that you deserve much better and take the necessary steps to replace this negative experience with a confidence-building and healthy one.