Although there isn’t a general rule when it comes to relationships and finding out whether your partner is the one or not, there are certain things that can help you determine whether your significant other is really in love with you. After all, words mean nothing when they aren’t backed up by actions. Check out the following things only a person who really loves you could do for you!
- They express their love for you
We are all different and so are our ways of showing love and appreciation. So, if your partner doesn’t bombard you with flowers or romantic messages, don’t worry. Maybe they are the type of person who proves their love through actions.
“Within one year of the relationship, your partner should express that they love you and see a future with you, or they [might not be] ‘a soulmate,’” dating coach Anna Morgenstern says.
- Include you in their plans
For instance, your partner gets a promotion in another country. If they take you seriously, they will take your opinion in consideration.
“But if they’re not talking about how you two can make it work if they’re living elsewhere, then that’s a red flag that maybe this relationship won’t last,” Theresa Herring, LMFT, a Chicago-area couples’ therapist, says.
- They share secrets with you
Not every relationship involves partners who share every single secret they have ever had. However, if they truly love you, they will share at least the things that affect your relationship. According to Anne-Marrie Foscolo, couples counselor,
“Things like what you ate for lunch and that your best friend is worried because her 14-year-old daughter’s got a boyfriend are not important to share. In this category would also be past relationships that didn’t include a divorce, abuse or a child. However, the big things (i.e., a medical diagnosis, losing/ getting a job, a fear of heights…) should be discussed.
- They disagree respectfully
Let`s face it! Disagreements happen in any relationship. But, if your partner finds a healthy way to argue, you have a reliable and mature partner.
Does your partner listen to what you have to say? Are they open to compromises? Do they respect your opinion? If yes, you have found a long-term partner.
“If you are walking on eggshells, avoiding conflict, or are worried that the relationship will be over after strong emotions are shown, they may not be a soulmate,” Dr. Klapow warns.
- They treat you as their friend
While there are many different reasons why people are attracted to each other, such as money, sexual attraction, or desire for children, true friendship is what keeps most couples together.
“In my opinion, a friend is someone who helps you feel better about yourself just by being with them,” Arlene B. Englander, LCSW, a psychotherapist and an author says.
- The time spent with you is precious for them
” You enjoy each other’s company and spend time together regardless of what you’re doing,” licensed marriage and family therapist, Heidi McBain, MA, suggests.
If sitting in silence with your partner calms you down and makes you content, the chances are you can grow old together.
- Respect your personal space
“Although it’s important to spend quality time with your partner, it’s just as crucial to spend time with yourself,” Caleb Backe, Health and Wellness Expert, says.
Healthy and stable relationships consist of two people who give each other space while in a relationship.
- He or she accepts you as you are
As explained by Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist, professor of psychology, and author of Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Narcissistic Relationship,
“Acceptance doesn’t carry that ‘I wish it was different’ theme. Acceptance has, at its core, the idea that this is who the person is — and you are okay with it.”
While you aren’t perfect your partner makes you feel as if you are. You two accept each other for who you are. Simple as that!
- They make you feel extremely happy
You respect, appreciate, and trust each other. You are open to each other`s needs. You are deeply connected with your partner. It brings you happiness to make them feel loved. They make you feel like nobody ever did.
- Try to satisfy you sexually
Last but not least, there`s sex life… If one of the partners isn’t happy with their sex life, that dissatisfaction could lead to tension and anger. But if you two communicate openly about your desires and try to satisfy each other`s needs, you are on the right track.
According to Rachel and Michael Gibbs, relationship experts and founders of the Big Oh! Box:
“Couples should be openly communicating their sexual needs to ensure a long and happy relationship,”